Friday, May 09, 2008

strawberry and basil ice

strawberry and basil ice

Take 500g Fraises de Carpentras, varieté Clery, some home grown Genovese basil, 12 egg yolks, a litre of milk and sugar and Bingo. Well, it would have been even better had our own hens laid the eggs, and had I not lost the stupid spindle - a silly plastic matchstick without which the glamorous chrome Le Glacier does not work. Anyway, thank God for hand churning.

Thursday, May 08, 2008

Baby

Babu2

Baby black and white cat is doing well. She is now officially called Babu after the name black people call whites in Africa and it reminds of my very first trip to that continent. It was at the height of apartheid. There were benches, loos, shops and cafés everywhere Reserved for Whites. My father was kidnapped for having a show of his artwork through which the slogan in Afrikaans ran 'Slegs vir Almal'. Reserved For Everybody. Babu is, I think, the Reserved For Everybody cat.

Meanwhile, the news from the local gynecologist is not encouraging on the prospect of having the necessary drugs prescribed for breast feeding an adopted child. 'It is not natural' she says. 'Of course men can become women these days and vice versa. One can do anything but that doesn't mean it is natural' ; 'There are other ways of becoming close to your child.'; 'The cancer risks are very high' (Apparently they are no higher than taking the contraceptive pill, which I never did). Blah Blah Blah. 'IVF isn't natural' I say. 'but unfortunately we are unable to have children naturally.' My girlfriend tells me that women in hospitals here, after they have given birth, are given the choice of chocolate or vanilla flavoured formula. Breasts don't come into it. I am getting very tired of this aspect of French Life. No you can't teach (Even though I have a doctorate degree from the State University of New York I am not qualified to teach in France). No you can't breast feed. No you can't put in an environmentally sound waste water purification system and water your garden with it. No No No.

Because I may need her on my side in the future, I did not ask the gynecologist: Do you have children? Did you give birth to them naturally? How did it feel? Did you breast feed them? How did that feel?

Of course it is something about which we have to take an informed decision. It is a choice whose consequences, if we make it, we cannot know and will have to accept. "No" is disempowering and it does not help.

Sunday, May 04, 2008

potting

potting2

The news on the forum is that each day calls come through from the Agence Française de l'Adoption, and small babies that we probably saw in Bamako lying on their backs with broken wings are flown to a loving nest and two pairs of open arms and given a chance to fly. Each time this happens our turn gets closer. At least, the remaining attributions from the last commission in January 2007 get made which brings the next commission - in which we have a chance of being selected - closer, which, if we are selected, means a wait of between one and twelve months before an attribution. Meanwhile, I am looking into breast feeding (yes it is possible) and we are potting.

terrace2

Friday, May 02, 2008

planting

thyme

I'm taking Zuleme's comment on my last post on board and, even though I am not writing, officially, I will try to post the occasional picture and commentary.

We were so excited when we got on the plane bound (via a 9 hour stopover in Casablanca) for spring in Provence. It had been a challenging trip to Mali - moving, exhausting, life changing. Certainly not relaxing. And so we returned - from the hottest place on earth, and one of the poorest - to two weeks of snow, rain and thunderstorms. Julian had started ranting about fish and chips and warm beer in an English pub on our last day in Bamako and his ranting became almost crazed as he lay bedridden with dysentry and Harmattan lung (a disease we invented) for almost two weeks. It was hard to reconnect with life here for reasons that....

Another story.

Anyway, since yesterday we have had emerald days again and, inspired by friends whose delectable lettuces we ate at with to-die-for pizze, we have been planting seeds ready for our square foot garden: thyme, chervil, basil, parsley, tomatoes, peppers,lettuces, beetroots....


We have been writing and playing Bach and painting and taking cats for walks in olive groves...

cats

And we have come home.

glycine

Tuesday, April 29, 2008

breather

door, djenne

Still taking a breather from the blogosphere. Trying to contain things that feel private all of a sudden like visits to orphanages. Also still trying to finish The Novel - if that is what it is ever to be - if only to start writing the next.....

Thursday, April 03, 2008

Djenné and Mopti

djenne mosque, morning

Joseph’s house was made entirely from mud, rice and beurre de karité. We lay on its roof, as we had done every morning for a week, watching the stars disappear and listening to the melody of the muezzin prostrating and folding in upon itself, causing no ripples in the hot morning air. A lizard painted comic flesh pink and sporting a dusty black and white tux paused on one parapet to perform a series of hurried press-ups before moving on to the next. The mosque of Djenné – the largest mud building in the world - loomed over the roofless compounds below - the open grids where people were washing, grain sifting, mango eating, millet pounding, arguing, baby rocking and praying - watching over them like the eye of Allah.

We were on our way to Mopti, a 100 km trip that took seven hours each way squished into a bush taxi, inhaling fumes and dust and sweat, crouching in amongst goats, seed sacks, snotty babies and mangoes. It’s all part of the local colour, we said to ourselves as we gasped for air and swallowed forty degree Harmattan-whipped sand. Nausea and heat rash were a given by now and Julian had the beginnings of dysentery. On the top of the rusty metal work called The Bus a Tuareg - black as the night and wound round in jet- black fabric - crouched on black Motorola and Nike bags. I hope he gets royalties, I thought.

the bush taxi to mopti

 tuareg plug for motorola and nike

From the moment we fell out of the vehicle onto the dusty roads of the town just south of Timbuktoo, were the Niger and Bani rivers converge, we were harassed.

‘Tu es plus pressé que la musique!’
‘Tu es libre comme la capitaine dans le Niger; comme le vent dans le desert’

Despite the fact that we were as free as the Nile perch in the Niger, our aggressor insisted, and the wind in the Sahara, we Westeners just came to Africa to take take take take, and Africa did not like it because Africa liked to share……I wondered briefly if he would consider the adoption of a homeless Malian baby ‘taking’. For a moment I thought he might be right. I held my tongue. He wittered on.

‘Babu Babu!’ exclaimed the little faces at knee level.

We lost the hassler somewhere amongst the dried fish and headed to Bozo Bar where we watched the universe of pinasses unload their cargo at the end of the world?. Luckily, especially with the help of some Bamako brew, we were not rendered completely immune to seduction and we succumbed to the delectable sunset cruise, an hour of moving through riverlives accompanied by the silent slice of the Nile Kingfisher.

On our return to Djenné I finally plucked up courage to ring the number I had, thanks to Joseph’s research, scribbled on a paper and scrunched in plastic and kept for a week in my bum-bag; that of the great Cora player Toumani Diabeté.

‘Mr Diabeté?
‘Yes?’
‘I am a huge admirer of your music. I am a musician myself…’ One of the boys in the ‘cyber café’ still had his finger stuck on the last button of Toumani’s number, and the other breathed down my neck, smelling of goat. ‘We are coming to Bamako and I was wondering if you might be playing at all this weekend?’
‘I am not playing on Saturday, but tomorrow you can come to the Hogon. Twenty three - thirty till three o’clock. Thank you for your call. Enchanté.’

We were sore and sick from the journey, and desperate not to have to get up at dawn to wait for a bush taxi to wait for a Bani bus, which would take twelve sizzling hours to lurch into Bamako. What would we do? Arrive, nap and get up in the middle of the night to hear my hero? I was up for it but Julian was sicker and definitely not. We had some serious meetings ahead: two orphanages, our lawyer, the head of the adoption commission….we needed to be relaxed.

Toumani would have to wait while ate more mangoes, sat a good deal on the toilet and enjoyed yet another star melting morning on Joseph’s roof. Hopefully one day, we tried to console ourselves, we would be spending a good deal of time in Bamako getting to know our child.

pinasses on the bani river

Saturday, March 15, 2008

time out

For those of you so kind as to have enquired after my health, I am fine. Helped by the fantastic writing programme called 'Scrivener', I am taking time out from blogging to work on my novel. At least I am trying to see if I can take three years' of scribblings to a point where I know if it is a novel or not..... In a week Julian and I are going to Mali. I may or may not be back. I don't know much right now but I am having fun!